“When you hit the beach, who do you want to be by your side?” – US Marine Corps expression.
Watch them run for the doors when the times get tough. They scramble to try and find the “next thing” without taking any time to reflect on what went wrong or what could be done differently next time. It hurts. But, you cant really blame them. This is your mess, not theirs. They’re not supposed to be leaders anyway – you are.
You suddenly lose your big client and all the revenue associated with it. You can’t make payroll or pay the rent at the office – or the mortgage at home. People you’ve known and trusted for years seem to be hiding from you – not returning emails or phone calls. A cascade of badness envelops you. For the first time you understand what it means to have a “black cloud” over your head. It gets lonely and quiet fast.
To be a leader, you must thrive on the chaos that comes from experiences like this. It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself and to try and hide from the world. It’s harder to stand tall and take it. No, not just take it – but rather embrace it. This is the best lesson of all. This is that feeling that you never want to feel again. So, feel it. Really feel it – breath it all in and then come to understand it. Once you understand it, you can start to fix it. Imagine how much stronger you will be when you come out on the other side victorious.
“Into each life some rain must fall, some days must be dark and dreary.” – Longfellow
The battleground at times like these isn’t with the creditors or the telemarketers calling ad nausea or even with the struggle to replace lost client revenues with new ones. The real battle takes place between your ears. You have to fight the doubt, absorb the punches that your self-confidence has taken and deal with the pain that comes from realizing that you’ve really been in this on your own – alone – from the beginning. Yes, it’s raining, it’s dark, it’s dreary and it can either drag you down or make you feel more alive than you have ever felt.